• You talk to everyone about your kids, except guess who? Your Kids! You have got to talk to your kids, folks!

    Decision made! I will NOT answer anymore questions that should be directed at your child, rather than your kids’ educators. For change to happen, steps have to be taken and some old bad habits have to be killed off. Now, some of you as you read this will be having some sort of a reaction, maybe an emotional one wondering, “how dare he?”.

    This is something I have noticed with some parents; unfortunately, the majority. You will talk to teachers, tutors, and other folks who play a role in your child’s growth but, NOT YOUR CHILD! Reason given is that they may not be mature enough. This is not a disclaimer but this article does not put all the parents into one box. It is only meant for those who prefer the box.

    We have become an extremely reactive society; good or bad. The problem is only the “bad” is escalated and exaggerated to the point where it causes hurt. PERFORMANCE vs PROGRESS. RESULTS vs EFFORT. What is more important to you? Do not give a superficial unthought of answer. Take your time, listen to your heart and be brutally honest about what your reply is.

    I see parents going into schools and coming into learning centres asking tutors, teachers and coaches on how their kids are progressing. I get it. You care and you want to know how you can do more. No one is questioning the love a parent has for his or her kids. How are we going about doing it? A child has less than 2 to 3 hours of time at home and statistics show that the amount of quality time a parent spends with a child could be in minutes or less.

    I know the reaction I am getting as you finished the last paragraph. “We all have to work”. “There is no time”. Your child did not beat out a billion other little sperms to be yours only, so that you and I can say that we do not have the time. They did not ask for this. They did not ask for a life of judgment and ridicule. You might think you are not doing it, but that’s not what the kids are saying.

    Talk to your kids. There are plenty of opportunities to do this and while you still can. Do it. Do not ask a teacher or a tutor about progress. Ask your own kids. They will have stories to tell you. Yes, it will be a little tough in the beginning, maybe even a little awkward. Do make sure the conversations are not about outcomes and results, but progress and effort. Build memorable conversations while you still can.

    It takes a village to raise the kids. I have heard this quite a lot. Yes, there are many people in the child’s life today that contribute to his or her growth. But we are the parents. Our blood flows through them making us the closest and most important people in their lives.

    Right now, there are other important characters they rather turn to. Their friends, Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp... sometimes even gangs. These are scary times where emotions are boiling over every single day.

    The real question is… why are all these things happening? Could there be a connection?

    Food for thought.

    From the Desk of Gabriel Suppiah, Founder of Score Campus.

  • THERE IS A SUPERHERO IN YOU!

    From the Desk of Gabriel Suppiah


    Superman, Ironman, Thor, Wonderwoman, Batman, Scarlet Witch and many more superheroes are fictional characters by Marvel and DC. Their stories are featured on the television, magazines and the big screen. That is our reality. A superhero is fictitious!
    NO!


    There is a Superhero in you. Before you realise that, you got to say, “Enough is Enough”.
    Before you realise that, you need to get out of that slavery to education mindset.
    Before you realise that, you need to drop that “I can’t” attitude and start believing that you are important in this world.


    Before you realise that, you need to look at the people you love and respect and let them know that you are born for more.


    This is about you; the Superhero in you!
    For way too long, a child’s life is defined by grades and what they achieve in the various classes. Even if that is considered ok, the mental stress and anxiety a child goes through that goes unnoticed or neglected is an even bigger crime.


    There are crimes everywhere when it comes to children.
    1. We do not allow them to express
    2. We define what they can and cannot do
    3. We do not allow them to Metamorphosize
    4. We do not allow them to create
    5. We do not challenge them
    6. We do not allow them to get hurt
    7. We do not allow them to grow
    Of course the defensive parents and educators will be up in arms by now ready to stone me to death, but let me share something with you. I am a parent and I am making the same mistakes just like anyone else.


    I want to play a role of a good parent in this extremely stressful world of today. I don’t want to be an extended version of a teacher, tutor, coach, counsellor or anything overly structured. I just want to be a parent and inspire my kids with my love for them and the passion I have for why I do what I do! This means we need enablers! We need the Alfreds’ of the world, the Happys’ of the world and the Nick Furys’ of the world to help us out. This is where the educators RISE UP as enablers.

    It is time. Life is more than grades. Life is about values and these values are shaped by powerful experiences; teachable moments. Our kids look more depressed and defeated then ever before. We can end this. We will form our halls of justice and from the ashes of defeat will rise a new breed of Superheroes; Education Superheroes.


    They will conquer good over evil; the ultimate learners of what is needed to make this world a better place. They will smile and they will laugh, and we will, alongside them, proud that we have played our role as parents to the best of our ability.


    Everything important and necessary will sound impossible to achieve and the voices of uncertainty and defeat will creep into us too. This is where we dig into OUR inner superhero and make a decision to Change, EVERYTHING!


    Welcome to the new world of Education Superheroes!


    From the Desk of Gabriel Suppiah


    gabriel@scorecampus.com
    www.scorecampus.com

  • WE AS EDUCATORS HAVE FAILED

    I have said this to my son many times. If he is an unhappy child, I have failed as a father and folks, I take this very personally. I have come back to Chennai for my usual traveling educators series and learned about Anita and also the blue whale challenge.

    I feel insulted as an educator. I feel our intelligence and passion are insulted. Time and again, we lose out to negativity and the spreading of it. Let's just spend a minute thinking about why this is happening folks? It is happening because education is associated with negativity. We talk about stressed out students dealing with anxiety and emotional breakdowns and all this for a simple grade.

    Let me ask you something. Is there a law that we are supposed to scare our kids with exams and grades? Is there proof that hours and hours of tuition and coaching classes are the only reasons why students do so well. As educators, is it not a massive slap on the face that our students have to go to other people's classes so that they can do well in exams? Does this not bother us at all?

    You know what folks? I am not saying this to insult our profession and trust me when I say this because, I am one of you. We need to make education lovable and addictive and more importantly, make it a level playing field. It is the difference in standards that led to the death of one of our most intelligent minds. Anita represented hope. Anita represented the true passion behind learning and what it can lead to. We lost an angel and if that does not upset you, most probably nothing will.

    No, this is not about pedagogy or latest methods of learning. It is about love and how it can make learning a level playing field. We are supposed to be the inspiration and I am sure some of us are, but this group needs to get bigger. As I was recovering from the news that we had lost Anita, I heard about the Blue Whale Challenge and how this mad man has got students and adults thinking about torture and even death. Seriously? We are losing out to this idiot? Excuse my language but I am beyond angry right now. We need the confidence and the spirit to rise up to the challenge of making learning lovable again and it starts right now. We have a million tasks to make this world a better place to live in and instead of that, we listen to this clown hiding behind a mask?

    Let us begin a revolution folks and it is a quiet but fun one. Post a video per day on positive learning and make it funny.

    Make sure 10 people smile and share this with all on social media. Tell your students to hug you before class and say "good day" to every one they see. Ask them say thank you to the janitors and security guards of the school and get to know 5 things about them.

    No, learning is not just about subjects; it is beyond walls. Character is the foundation of learning and it brings magic to learning. Let us unleash this character in our students and the grades will automatically go up. It is time for renewal and revival. I can only hope and pray that you are with me on this. Looking forward and welcome to the classroom without walls.

    From the Desk of Gabriel Suppiah

  • Have we lost control of our kids? Is there such a thing?

    I am writing this sitting on a plane with my kids traveling to India for a once in a life time experience. Yes, a traditional Indian wedding is what we are flying to India for. But this is not about that experience but the one we are having on the plane as I write this.

    Well at this stage, I have to introduce myself a little so that the story makes a little more sense to you as we progress. My name is Gabriel Suppiah, and I am a Peak Performance Coach and an educator working out of Singapore. I am known for strict discipline and am recognised striking fear with people I work with, clients, students, parents, my own family and the list goes on (something I am not proud of, but it happens.) So, you have an idea now.

    Now back to the story at hand. My kids and I were seated next to a Mother traveling alone with her two boys. As the plane was about to take off, the boys were really misbehaving. The boys were maybe 3 and 6 in ages. The Mother had lost control and kept threatening the kids using the flight attendant. Her famous ineffective statement of the evening was "you boys better behave and fasten the seat belts before I call the flight attendant". The flight attendant came, tried, and got frustrated not with the kids but with the Mother for having absolutely no control.

    The plane was on the runway getting ready for take off and the boys were still standing on their seats. Even the other passengers were getting worried for the boys . I did not want to be the scary man but this moment really needed Coach Gabe. I turned to my right and in a stern yet gentle voice (not too sure what that really means, but you get the point), I said to the boys, "I need you to sit down right this moment and fasten your seat belts". The boys did exactly that and there was calm  on the plane.

    This entire time, my kids were paying attention to what was happening as well. They were proud that their dad had control of the situation but I saw another expression on their faces. The expression that spoke volumes saying "my dad is a scary man". Do I want this branding? This made me further think about basic manners and discipline. How do we as parents deal with our kids who are ill mannered? Leave it or deal with it. If my observations are right, more people have lost control of their kids or have no relationship with them. Do you see yourself in this situation as well?

    If yes, let's RISE UP. We are awesome parents and as Long as we show balance in the way we raise our kids, we will never lose our kids to bad behaviour and the "new discipline" of this millennium could be a good one. How do we achieve this? There is no fix formula for this folks but let's share some ideas shall we? I hope some of you parents can share some ideas too.

    1. Have regular conversations with kids that are not directly connected to school work. Talk about your good  experiences in life. Talk about great leaders, strength, perseverance and success. Follow a role model as a family. Try your level best to not make this academic.

    2. Regular outings and activities that you pick up as a family and learn. Some examples could be Canoeing, golfing, Bowling, etc. Get competitive when you need to, and share experiences and stories of sportsmanship. Activities are a winner when it comes to raising kids with great values. Let me stress this. Don't just send your kids for course, learn with them.

    3. Pick a good book with great values. Everyone reads a different kind of book and on a designated book club evening, share your learnings and understanding of your findings. Simple exercise that brings a family together.

    There are plenty more folks. We got to take charge in this matter. Remember the day they were born, when we held their little bodies in our hands. Remember the words we said and the promises we made? Let's renew them and start over. Let's form a community of great parents.

    From the Desk of Gabriel Suppiah